Detox Your Soul – with Dr. Etel Leit
Learn How to Set Healthy Boundaries
Only Say Yes When You Mean it Start Setting Confident Boundaries in Just 7 Days
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Do You Struggle to Set Boundaries with People You Love?
Setting boundaries – we all know we need them to maintain a healthy work-life balance, deal with toxic individuals, and have satisfying relationships with our family, partners, spouses, friends, and colleagues. But what exactly do “healthy boundaries” entail, and how can we assert ourselves, convey our demands, and say “no” to others without offending them?
These strategies, based on the most recent research and best practices in positive psychology by Etel Leit, enable you to openly and unapologetically articulate your needs and uncover the underlying causes of codependency, power struggles, anxiety, depression, exhaustion, and other issues.
Adhere to your well-being, practice, and get to set healthy boundaries with the people you love!
Do you ever find it hard to:
- Say no without making explanations or excuses…
- Say no when you know you could help, but it isn’t the right thing for you…
- Say no when someone really wants something you don’t want to do…
- Say no and worry less about being liked or seeking approval…
- Say no without getting lost in fear, guilt, or feeling selfish…
- Say no with kindness and compassion…
- Say yes to time and space for your own priorities…
Say what you mean, mean what you say, but don’t say it mean!
Through just 7 chapters, learn how to set boundaries and create meaningful, respectful relationships.
Identify what healthy boundaries actually are for you Develop the skills to set boundaries with kindness and compassion Watch your relationships thrive as you set boundaries you can feel good about
- Learn simple and clear ways to set boundaries
- Unlock the secret to a healthy relationship
- Get Friendly and supportive leaders to help
- Learn how to steer away from codependency
- Break through the fear of boundaries
Who should take this course:
- People who want to set their own personal limits… for any part of their life.
- People-pleasers often sacrifice their needs for others.
- Anyone wanting to overcome feelings of guilt and fear when standing up for themselves.
- Those who deal with difficult people or relationships and need help protecting their own rights.
- Individuals looking to become empowered and cultivate healthier connections with others.
Start standing on your own, and live with a new sense of wholeness and confidence. Let’s get started!
Top 5 Reasons People Do Not Set Boundaries
- People don’t like to be rejected
- People pleasing
- Avoiding arguments
- ‘Good Girl Jerusalem’
- People don’t know how to set boundaries
Bonuses
- Learn the top 5 reasons why people have negative connotations with boundaries
- Learn the proper mood and context for boundaries
- Learn how to control and stabilize your emotions
- Unlock the secret of the sandwich trick!
Incredible Clients Love Stories & Reviews
PEACE WITH MY MOM
"Etel, thank you. Seriously. I cannot even begin without saying that my family has drama. A LOT. It’s affected my daily life with how much tension there is between me and my mom. I’m finally done with her having control over me. Etel helped me stop the habit of constantly trying to please her when all it does is drain me. I’m free, and it’s just like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. If you’ve been on the fence about this, I’d say to DO IT. The difference it’s made in my life is just plain amazing."
–L.W.
CALM AT WORK
"This course finally made me stand up to my boss, lol. He was always expecting too much from me and I was TIRED. I always took on most tasks because I didn’t want to let him down but Etel taught me that it’s okay to say no. I wasn’t that nervous about it either, which was surprising. I finally was able to set my own boundaries confidently in front of him!! And it worked!!! ."
–M.G.
WE ARE NOW MARRIED
"Taking these sessions changed EVERYTHING for me. I always believed that my boyfriend and I were in a healthy relationship, yet I could never figure out why we were arguing almost every week. Turns out we both weren’t setting boundaries just for ourselves. After Etel’s course, we both realized that we don’t have to do things for each other 24/7, and now I’d say our communication patterns have changed a LOT. I can finally go to sleep knowing that we’re on the same page and healthily too. Thanks, Etel!! ."
–D.K.
What the course entails
- 7 complete detialed easy to follow chapters
- Clear cheet sheets for each lesson
- A series of assignments and worksheets to practice new habits
- A list of key points outlining each chapter
- Multiple activities to apply the lessons learned
- Real life examples
- Supported research
Meet Dr. Etel Leit
Hi, My name is Etel Leit. I help those who live their lives for others finally live for themselves. As a communication and relationship expert, and a positive psychology researcher, I give people the tools they need to love the life they live. The key to my own story was accountability. With support, love, and curiosity, a whole new version of life is in store. It’s 100% possible to feel more confident and more fulfilled. It’s possible to respect yourself while compassionately loving others. It’s the light way to love! And you don’t have to do it alone. If you are ready to stop people-pleasing, drop the drama and look within, then make yourself a priority.
What you'll get
- Unlimited audio & video access.
- 7 sessions of clear sessions
- Summary Notes & Practices for each week.
- Mobile access to all the course content.
- Discounts & first access to future live workshops and pre-recorded courses when you subscribe to our email list.
Detox Your Soul- How to Set Healthy Boundaries
Chapter 1: “Start Your Journey”
It’s common that people are “addicted to” relationships and satisfying others’ needs while ignoring their own. However, flattering others cannot win the respect of others, nor can you satisfy yourself. Therefore, it’s time to change your mindset and set healthy boundaries with other people.
In the following sessions, we’ll practice with Etel and address boundaries by understanding their connotations and doing interesting exercises.
- What are the top 5 reasons people don’t set boundaries?
- What are the roots of those reasons?
- How to solve those roots?
- How to solve those roots?
Key Points You Will Learn in Session 1
Addiction to people-pleasing is unhealthy.
Changing yourself through your mindset is the first step of setting boundaries.
An important thing of changing your mindset: holding accountability to others.
When you do self-work, it is important to put cynicism aside.
Jump out of your comfort zone with old habits.
With continuous practice, work, and the refusal to give up, you will receive the best version of yourself.
Chapter 2: “Redefine Unhealthy Beliefs”
Many people still think that “boundary” is a negative word. People will associate punishment, selfishness, and other negative things with setting boundaries. Now, let’s change the stereotype of boundaries and build a healthy boundary together!
What You Will Learn in Chapter 2
- What are the top 5 reasons people don’t set boundaries?
- What are the roots of those reasons?
- How to solve those roots?
Key Points You Will Learn in Session 2
Most people believe boundaries are negative, but the truth is, they’re not.
People who set boundaries are usually those that others respect. They have self-love and people are drawn to that.
People who set boundaries will show you who they are, what’s okay, and what’s not okay in their terms.
Waiting too long to set boundaries will make you sit with resentment. The feeling of resentment will boil in and explode if you don’t release it healthily.
People who do not set healthy boundaries usually get negative emotions.
Chapter 3: “Top 5 Reasons People Don’t Set Boundaries”
The top 5 reasons why people don’t set boundaries: avoiding rejection, people pleasing, avoiding arguments, ‘Good Girl Jerusalem,’ and simply not knowing how to set boundaries. Don’t be hampered by these five reasons. We need to overcome these difficulties and establish a healthy boundary between ourselves and others!
What You Will Learn in Chapter 3
- What are the top 5 reasons people don’t set boundaries?
- What are the roots of those reasons?
- How to solve those roots?
Key Points You Will Learn in Session 3
- People pleasing means doing things that I don’t want to and only doing it for others.
- People pleasing = lying, and lying can cause lower self-esteem.
- Keeping your thoughts and opinions can equate to high self-esteem.
- Childhood experience influences some people to avoid arguments.
- Set the boundaries that make you feel good.
- Boundaries can be healthy; It can benefit you and empower you.
Chapter 4: “Setting Boundaries to Ourselves”
Our behavior is the key! Remember the boundary is always for you. Determine what the boundary is, what happens, and what you are going to do when someone breaks the boundary all before setting it with the person you want.
What You Will Learn in Chapter 4
- What are the top 5 reasons people don’t set boundaries?
- What are the roots of those reasons?
- How to solve those roots?
Key Points You Will Learn in Session 4
We never set boundaries towards the other person, because we set them towards ourselves.
Using meaningless words, empty threats, or ignorant ways to set boundaries is incorrect.
Keep thinking about what you’ll do when the boundary is set.
The boundary is always for you.
We cannot force people to change, but we can change our behavior.
Chapter 5: “Knock, knock- Timing is Everything”
Negative emotions make it impossible for us to set boundaries with others. Therefore, we need to schedule a meeting with the other person when we feel good and HALT free, and clearly state our boundaries after sufficient preparation.
What You Will Learn in Chapter 5
- What are the top 5 reasons people don’t set boundaries?
- What are the roots of those reasons?
- How to solve those roots?
- What are the first 3 steps to prepare?
Key Points You Will Learn in Session 5
Do not set boundaries when you have negative emotions (emotional space)
Emotional space is a phrase; it means bringing emotions into your own words when setting boundaries
The healthier way to set a boundary is to first set a meeting
Remove power struggle by scheduling time for a meeting…
…Preferably today.
Through removing power struggle, the person will arrive calm and relaxed, listen without threatening
HALT means Hungry, Angry, Lonely and Tired
Review your notes, being HALT free, and removing your phone are the first 3 steps to prepare.
Chapter 6: “Skills for Success”
Now it’s time to enter the meeting. Review your notes, make sure to have eye contact, and use: pleasing body language, facial expressions and good word choice. Using these four are important things during your meeting. Use the Sandwich Trick strategy to organize your language and convey the right information to the other person. Let’s start now!
What You Will Learn in Chapter 6
- What are the top 5 reasons people don’t set boundaries?
- What are the roots of those reasons?
- How to solve those roots?
- What are the first 3 steps to prepare?
- How to use thought-through processes?
Key Points You will Learn in Session 6
Eye contact, Body language (sit upright and body towards each other), facial expressions (eyebrows) and word choice are important factors during the meeting.
Express that what you feel and need is important.
Sandwich trick is a strategy to put difficult issues between two pleasant things.
When using the Sandwich Trick strategy and the person gets defensive, you have to stay curious.
Using this thought-through process: Be clear about the boundary -> Approach it in a planned meeting -> Make the other person feel heard.
Take the time and put the effort into creating a healthy relationship.
Chapter 7: “It works if you work it”
When the other person acts on our boundaries, we also need to respond positively. At the same time, if the other person does not, we should also insist on doing what makes us feel good and the right thing.
In this process, we need to look at ourselves, be consistent, and understand that we are not the highest power of anyone, and so are others. Finally, please always love yourself!
What You Will Learn in Chapter 7
- What are the top 5 reasons people don’t set boundaries?
- What are the roots of those reasons?
- How to solve those roots?
Using A “Mirror” to Look at Your Inside
What can I bring to this relationship?
How can I respect myself though setting healthy boundaries?
Key Points You Will Learn in Session 7
When the other person respects your boundary, remember to show immense appreciation, and even exaggerate your recognition.
The boundary set is always for us.
Keep doing whatever feels good to you, even if the person makes excuses and follow through with what you promised yourself.
Consistency is key.
You are not the higher power of anyone, and no one is your higher power.
Always have Self-Love.