Why You Fall For The Wrong People — And How To Stop
You know it’s wrong for you. You know it doesn’t feel good. So why do you still miss them? Why do you still crave the person who couldn’t give you what you need? It’s not a mystery—it’s your nervous system. Let’s stop calling it a type and start calling it what it is: a pattern. If you keep falling for emotionally unavailable partners, it’s likely because your body thinks anxiety equals love. You may not want chaos, but your nervous system recognizes it as familiar. That’s the lie of the trauma bond. It tricks your brain into thinking inconsistency is intimacy and confusion is chemistry. This cycle isn’t about weakness. It’s about repetition. The same emotional blueprint playing out over and over again, hoping the story ends differently. Until you consciously rewrite your internal Love Narrative™, nothing changes. You don’t attract what you want—you attract what feels known.
